Get Unstuck Blog

Let us get straight to the truth that most executivestry to ignore. You’re highly successful on paper, but exhausted because you believe you have to carry the weight of your world entirely on your own. In my conversation this week with Debra Driscoll, the founder of The BeHer Collective, we looked at the root cause of this exhaustion. It is not a lack of "soft skills" or time management. It’s the deeply ingrained belief that you must do life and leadership by yourself.

It’s incredibly common to feel afraid to step out of an individual contributor role. When you’ve spent years perfecting your craft, there’s comfort in knowing the rules of the road. That can create a clear preference to focus on your technical skills, and avoid developing your leadership abilities.

You are successful on paper. You have the title, the team, and the track record. Yet, if you are being completely honest, you feel like you’re holding on by a thread some days. When you’re exhausted, the generic advice is always the same: "work sm When I’m looking for my next big move—whether it’s for my business or my life—I want the burning bush. I want the sky to crack open, a lightning bolt to strike the ground, and a booming voice to say, "Tosca, this is exactly what y

I’ll be honest, I would love to find the easy button. When I’m looking for my next big move—whether it’s for my business or my life—I want the burning bush. I want the sky to crack open, a lightning bolt to strike the ground, and a booming voice to say, "Tosca, this is exactly what you need to do next."

Human skills are about more deeply understanding yourself, so that you can see how you are showing up in the world – not just for yourself but for others. While it may be hard to admit, the biggest deterrent to learning more about yourself and your patterns could be because you’re afraid to find out what you learn. This is something I completely understand.

We have a massive misconception in the professional world. We believe that the harsh voice in our head—the one that pushes, critiques, and nags—is the secret to our success. We think it is the fuel that gets us to the top. But here is the truth: It is toxic fuel. Just like the difference between gas and electric, one is sustainable and the other isn't. Shame might get you to move for a moment, but it will eventually burn you out. In this week's episode of The Unlock

Even as a seasoned speaker, a change in format can wake up the Inner Critic. In this post, I share the exact process I used to condense a 45-minute keynote into a hard-hitting 10-minute talk without losing my cool. Discover why public speaking is a test of Human Skills (internal regulation), not just "soft skills" (external polish), and learn my 3-step protocol to prepare, show up with grace, and celebrate being of service rather than obsessing over perfection. 🦉

Human skills are the ability to look deeply at yourself, recognize your patterns, and understand what needs to shift so you can reach your goals. For too long, the corporate world has prioritized technical expertise while treating our internal state as an afterthought.

In this episode, we challenge the conventional definition of trauma with Trauma Recovery Coach Stacey Uhrig. While many leaders dismiss their internal struggles because they lack a history of "catastrophic" events, Stacey reveals that trauma is not always explosive. Often, it is cumulative; a thousand "paper cuts" or the absence of feeling seen, heard, and safe. We examine how high achievement and being "driven" are frequently survival tactics used to cope with these unheale

Over the past few months I’ve been doing a lot of thinking (perhaps too much thinking) about what my work really is. Not just because of the whole ‘end of year’ reflection stuff, but also because I needed to think more deeply about the kind of impact I want to have on the world.